I don't require my partner to drive a super fancy car. In fact, I'd rather he didn't because I feel like the insurance would be sky high and I'd rather save that money for a bad-ass vacation.
I don't want this dude to be a world-renowned surgeon because then his work will always come first.
I don't even want a guy who exercises a lot or who is really into working out. Quite frankly, I can't relate to the elation of "maxing out" after a record number of reps. I could give a shit.
I bring this up because lately, I'm getting rather annoyed with the men I'm meeting who insist that I'm totally missing out or wasting my life because I'm not _________ (fill in the blank.)
Most recently, that blank has been filled with hiking, seeing the movie Goonies (shut up, I don't want to hear it), hitting the bars late at night or fully appreciating all the wonders my town has to offer.
I have never liked hiking or bar hopping and I can't tell you how annoyed I get when someone hears of a movie I haven't seen yet and I'm assaulted with, "WHAT??? You haven't seen it?? Where have you been??"
As it turns out, that reaction does not, in fact, make me want to see your damn movie any more than I already did.
I have had almost the exact same priorities since childhood:
- Family and friends
- Food and sleep
- Television, music, movies, books and pop culture
All I ask is that if you're trying to date me, rather than insist that I need to rearrange my preferences, you recognize that I already know what I want and I'm not shifting anything to include your daily ritual of wombat sacrifice.
You know, unless there's cake.
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Geez. You know, you are really missing out by not meeting winners.
WHAT? You've never sacrificed wombats?! Girl, you are totally not really living your life until you've sacrificed wombats.
These guys need to get more creative and start mixing things together to trick you like family movie night featuring Goonies, or food as sexual foreplay.
I completely agree!!!
And that movie shit is so annoying. i am NOT a movie buff and I would rather do something else than sit still for two hours. I just can't! So when people are shocked that I haven't seen this or that - it's totally annoying to me. Who really cares if I've never seen ______.
People are like that about traveling and it always makes me feel lame and also immediately dislike them (I like people who think I'm cool!). I'm sorry, but I just don't think I'd like backpacking through Europe. I enjoy clean underwear.
You know, I'd love to agree with your sentiments here, and for the most part, I do. But I also find this subject really tricky. It's a very fine line between knowing who you are and what you're comfortable with and finding someone who loves you for it AND knowing that you need to make changes in your life in various ways and finding someone who helps you do that.
I'm not suggesting that people who make you feel like an idiot because you "have to try this or that" are the people you need to get together with. But at some point, it seems like everyone has to find someone who they are comfortable with AND who they can make positive changes with.
Make sense?
It is screamingly obvious to me that you should definitely not be with a person who freaks out over The Goonies. Sure, it's fun to call someone "sloth" when you're in eighth grade, but after that it turns into a bit of a warning sign--especially if they start trying to make you do the truffle shuffle.
Finding someone with the same priorities as you is very difficult. I think my husband and I are a perfect match, yet our priorities aren't exactly in sync.
But seriously. Those people? I could do without.
I have started counting "you should" statements from people and if I hear one I'm on alert. If I hear more than one, it's over. I don't need to be told what I should do. I already know.
And Goonies totally sucks ass. Anyone who thinks that is a must-see is a loser anyway.
I have started counting "you should" statements from people and if I hear one I'm on alert. If I hear more than one, it's over. I don't need to be told what I should do. I already know.
And Goonies totally sucks ass. Anyone who thinks that is a must-see is a loser anyway.
You tell 'em, sister. Nobody put Baby in a corner.... or tells her to go for a hike.
1. I haven't seen Goonies, along with a ton of other movies, and I get that same reaction a lot. Where I've "been" is in the Cult of Music School for basically my whole life. Not that it's an explanation for everyone, but it explains why I'm not so hip, in some ways.
2. I'd definitely rather sit in my arm chair and watch any number of shows or movies than go bar hopping.
Totally Awesome. You are YOU and boys need to get over it!
A guy once told me that my life would be forever changed by joining a polar bear club. You know, the kind where you jump into ungodly cold water at ungodly early hours of the morning.
I refrained from asking if he liked that the shrinkage covered up the fact that he already had a small penis. I think it was generous of me. ;)
You GOOO girl!!! Don't EVER change any of your priorities for a guy. Ever.
They need to share your priorities or leave you alone about them.
But. Seriously? Never seen Goonies?? Where have you BEEN??
Just kidding!!!!!!
I agree with you about being with overachievers and people SOOO into things. Unless it's food, I'd be okay with that.
I mean, how happy can I really be for you that you ran ten miles??
Thank you for not changing to please him. I've seen so many people pretend to like things just because they think the guy wants them to. If they don't like you for you....then well, you'll have to figure that part out.
"If food doesn't even make your top ten, well, I don't get that but it's your choice." - My favorite. I don't understand it either. haha.
Hell yes.
I actually don't think anybody really likes Goonies--even the people who insist they do. I suspect those people are just attached to the memory of having seen the thing. Like maybe it was the movie they saw when their Moms dropped them off at the mall by themselves for the first time. Or maybe it was the first time they tried popcorn with extra butter. Or maybe it was the first time they held sweaty hands with their first pimply crushes. It was a good flick for the 80's, but it just doesn't cut the mustard anymore. There's no reason to see it now because we've all (or most of us) sagely jumped off the 80's train.
Also: I HATED hiking before I met my husband. I still don't love it, and I'll never buy hiking boots because that would send the wrong message. But I do like walking with my fam, even if it is through leafy terrain that may or may not contain various smooshy things flies like to eat.
I like you just the way you are, Sara. Someone is gonna like the heck out of you one day. Maybe he'll even whip up a cheesy blaster for you to seal the deal.
You are ready to get married.
I think it took 7 years into my marriage to figure out that being with another person isn't about changing FOR them, or changing them... just enjoying (or tolerating) the differences and continuing to live life as a happy individual in a relationship... :)
Clearly, you have not been properly introduced to your perfect soul mate.
Ahem.
Hello, I'm SurferWife *extending hand for a hearty handshake*
Want to go grab a plate of Panko crusted cheese sticks?
If you date older..say, an octogenarian, they appreciate that your values are already set (as theirs have been for decades) and will not attempt to change them in any way. You may have to arrange your day around Bingo, though.
hahaha. YOU HAVENT SEEN THeE MOVIE THE GOONIES?!
You really aren't missing out that much. I mean... it's entertaining and for soem reason it's a cult classic... but it's really mediocre at best.
Aside from that... I have a feeling me and you would be perfect together since I love to cook!
OMG ! Date a chef!! Nvm they are all douche knockers.
I think your priorities are great. Although I would probably switch #1 and #3.
I hadn't seen Goonies or Star Wars until I met my husband. The way I figure it, pop culture jokes pretty much clued me in to what happened in both....why did I need to SEE them?
You need to get on Twitter. Just sayin'
Your requirements seem spot on to me. Personally, I didn't set the bar so high. My only requirement was that my guy could not weigh less than I did.
Just wanted to let you know I followed a link from @bellebeandog (who's husband does weigh less than she does) on Twitter to this post and glad I did. You really should sign up so that more people could have access to your humor.
It drives me nuts when people react so badly to the fact that you haven't seen some movie that it is as if you just called their mom a bitchy, slutty whore.
Get over it people. It's just a movie.
Hello! New reader here (thanks, Surferwife!), food is high on the list too. Love a good restaurant. Hamsters are second. That's not odd, right?
I LOVE YOU! Every woman over 12 should read this, feel this and know this.
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